Every child needs to hear the words “I love you” from those who are closest to them. And if you reading this, that probably means you want to know what creates the most impact in your child’s life—what lasts the longest, goes the farthest, goes the deepest…hits the bullseye on their hearts. Of course, start with “I love you”. Say it often, lavishly and repeatedly.
And back it up with actions.
Back it up with time.
Back it up with interest and questions and presence.
Be interested in your children by pursuing them. They want to know you’re looking for them to spend time with them. I’m reminded of the 1942 book by Margaret Wise Brown. Runaway Bunny Be curious. Ask them questions about their thoughts and their feelings and what happened at school. What they think about the world around them. What troubles them. What makes them smile or laugh.
Be present.
When you’re with your child leave your phone out of it.
Leave your calendar out of it. Leave others out of it.
Leave your thoughts about work and the rest of your day behind. Be present.
They’ll know if you are.
